What are the mother of the bride's responsibilities?

Most of the work happens during the wedding planning phase. Because every little detail costs money, planning can't start until there's a budget. This is a responsibility the mother of the bride traditionally helps out with -- whether you're paying for everything, contributing a set amount, or your daughter and her intended are footing the bills.

Once funds are allocated, you'll:

Pulling off the wedding ceremony smoothly takes practice. As the mother of the bride, you play a role in the flow of the wedding and should participate in the rehearsal and the dinner that typically follows. You may even be asked to help plan the dinner.

On the big day, you'll be one of the people your daughter turns to when she needs help getting ready. Some attendants may call on you for assistance, too. Before the backstage phase begins, you may want to get yourself dressed and coiffed with plenty of time to spare so you'll be available to help when necessary.

Unless you walk your daughter down the aisle, you'll be the last person seated for the ceremony. Your entry signals that the wedding is about to begin. After the recessional, you'll probably be making the first move, too. You'll exit right behind the bridal party, and the rest of the guests will follow your lead.

The mother of the bride is the official hostess of the reception. It's your job, along with other important family members, to greet and welcome guests.

As head of the receiving line, try to set a tempo that keeps guests moving quickly into the reception hall. Assemble the receiving party so that each member makes warm, brief greetings, handing the guest off to the next person. The last greeter should direct guests to food or beverages.

Once the party starts, you may be called upon to dance with the bride's father or her new husband. But your most important responsibility of the day is to enjoy the occasion, congratulating the bride and groom on their beautiful wedding and new life together.