You've spent months toiling over seating charts and acting as mediator between your mom and future mother-in-law. And how are you going to celebrate? By putting on an uncomfortable dress and about 2 pounds of makeup! What you need is a vacation -- in bridal lingo, that's code for honeymoon.
Although some couples have the option of hopping a plane for parts unknown immediately following their nuptials, others are faced with certain limitations. Some of the more obvious constraints include a lack finances or work-related conflicts (you don't have enough paid vacation days, there's a big presentation coming up, or about a million reasons involving a not-so-understanding boss). Other couples have children to care for, health concerns that preclude a lengthy trip or another issue altogether to consider when planning a post-ceremony getaway. Or, maybe you've drained your energy reserves planning the wedding and the thought of putting on a dinner dress and dancing under the stars sounds like torture.
Whatever your reason, those of you who can't swing a traditional honeymoon need not fret too much. Plenty of modern brides are planning short, yet fabulous, minimoons to mark the blessed occasion while it's still fresh to them and their new hubbies.
Sometimes, life just gets in the way, but that's no reason for you to completely write off your post-wedding trip. Perhaps you're conserving funds because you're planning a big honeymoon a few months down the road, or maybe you're about to buy a home. For every decision in life, there's always some excuse to be made that justifies putting off something until later. While we tend to agree with being responsible, it's also vitally important to your marriage that you and your beloved have plenty of time to reflect on the importance of your vows without a lot of distractions around. What better way to do that than by taking a couple of days for yourselves?
Additionally, a post-wedding trip is an excellent way to relax and let go of all the wedding-related stress you've encountered over the past few months. Even if you do nothing more than hole up in a mountain cabin for a night or two, it'll be a welcome relief from the incessant ringing of your cell phone. Sometimes, all it takes is a breather following a big event to prepare you and your husband to re-enter the world as a stronger, more unified couple.
Before you picture yourself spending two nights in the Swiss Alps, slow down and think about the effort it'll take to travel there. By their very nature, minimoons come with a certain set of geographical limitations. You probably don't want to waste more time than you have to in the car, so opt for a location within an hour's drive from your wedding site. That said, there are typically dozens of options for newlyweds to choose from. Obviously, coastal couples can rent a beach house or condo, or even take a weekend cruise. If your local terrain is more mountainous than tropical, plan a weekend excursion filled with horseback rides, nature hikes and a cozy cabin complete with a heart-shaped hot tub.
If you wish to stay close to home, consider looking into what your own city (or the closest metropolis) has to offer. Rent a room in a swank downtown hotel, enjoy dinner by candlelight, and take in a musical or play. If you prefer to be pampered, check into your local spa for a weekend of blissful massages, facials, seaweed wraps and plenty of quality downtime with your hubby.
On the off chance that you're disappointed by the brief duration of your vacation, remember that this is the beginning of a much bigger adventure than any old trip. You can visit Hawaii anytime, but you'll only be newlyweds once. Besides, as cliché as it sounds, it doesn't matter a bit where the two of you are, as long as you're together. So relax and bask in the joy of your marriage and a minimoon that the two of you will remember for the rest of your lives!
- "Minimoons - the new honeymoons." Hotels.com. June 16, 2009. (May 16, 2011).http://www.hotels.com/press/minimoons.html
- Tweedy, Jo. "After the nanobreak comes the 'minimoon' as newlyweds scrimp on honeymoon holiday." Daily Mail Online. July 1, 2009. (May 16, 2011).http://www.dailymail.co.uk/travel/article-1196758/The-rise-minimoon-couples-try-save-money-honeymoon-holiday.html