A big element of wedding planning is honoring established traditions. There are so many rules, though, that it can get frustrating sometimes. One area where there's some real freedom to choose a unique and individual course is in whether or not to have a bride and groom gift exchange. There are no set guidelines for giving spousal wedding gifts -- yet, anyway. They have the meaning and weight you confer on them, and if the practice seems like too much, you can skip it. But if you do endorse a gift exchange, it can be an oasis of intimacy during a very public time if you do the honors in private, or a charming photo opportunity among family and friends.