How to Choose Your Maid of Honor


The author with her maid of honor, Heather, who insists that it was a cinch being Alia's MOH.
The author with her maid of honor, Heather, who insists that it was a cinch being Alia's MOH.
Photo courtesy Alia Hoyt

She'll be the Monica to your Rachel. The Laverne to your Shirley. The Thelma to your Louise, minus the criminal behavior (we hope) and Brad Pitt (we're sorry to say). The maid of honor you choose directly impacts the success of your wedding, as well as your sanity level leading up to the big event.

Sometimes, your choice for maid of honor is obvious, whether it's your only sister or your best friend since birth. For other brides, the choice can be a serious gray area that must be navigated delicately to avoid hurting feelings or putting someone in an uncomfortable position.

Etiquette standards for selecting your maid of honor have relaxed in recent years. It's now socially acceptable to have co-maids of honor, or even one maid of honor and one matron of honor. But take the time to think over your options before you make a decision about who will be joining you at the altar.

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