The Bridesmaid's Guide to Planning a Wedding Shower

It's All About the Details

In order to plan the perfect shower, you need to make sure the details are well thought out. Ask the bride and groom for a list of people they would like to attend and send out invitations at least four to six weeks in advance. Be sure to include the couple's wedding registries on the invitation so guests know where to get the goods.

Most people groan at the thought of boring shower games, but they don't have to be dull! If bridal bingo gives you hives, think outside the box! If the lovebirds are having a DIY wedding, have the guests help create some of the wedding d├ęcor. You can even intertwine a game of sorts while the happy couple opens their gifts. As the bride or groom unwraps each present, have the gift-giver explain how they know the couple and a favorite memory they share together. It will be a heartfelt moment that the bride will love infinitely more than bridal trivia, and if the guys are invited, you're likely to hear about some embarrassing and comedic moments of friendship.

Once you've nailed down the details of the event, the execution comes easy! The main thing to think about is the flow of the shower. Most commonly, guests eat and mingle as they arrive, and once everyone is present, the bride and groom begin opening their gifts. There's time for games during or after the gift-giving and then a bit of free time for mingling before the guests leave. To make things easier on yourself, plan to ask someone, maybe another member of the wedding party, to help with the set up and clean up of the event.

During the shower, keep some tricks up your sleeve to help make the day easier on the bride and groom. Assign someone to keep track of each present and who gave it to help with thank you notes. When the party starts wining down, offer to help the couple carry their gifts to the car. Hopefully, they stocked up on items that will help make their transition into married life a little easier. No matter what though, at least you can rest easy knowing that you threw them a bash to remember.

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