Your tween is trying to find a look and style all her own, and so should you. It's a sure bet that the style persona you were comfortable with 10 years ago just isn't working these days, so find something new that does work. Your tween is evaluating many of the style options the hotties are wearing. She's building an approach she thinks will make a good fit -- in a lot of ways. It doesn't matter if you favor casual comfort, understated elegance, classic business chic or quirky retro dressing; experiment until you find your own new path. The journey can be fun and a great opportunity to bond with your tween.