Adolescence is a time when parental control over teenagers starts to waver and parent anxiety levels rise. Teens start to develop their own identity and make their opinions known, often resulting in conflicts with parents. It may be hard for parents to adjust to the fact that their children are separating from them, and growing into adults with their own sets of values and ideas. It's normal for teens and parents to disagree and have their conflicts at this stage; parents don't always agree with their teen's decisions and attitudes. Teens get angry because they feel that their newfound individuality is being challenged by their over-protective and domineering parents. Teens often rebel against parental control as they assert themselves, and this self-expression is one of the difficulties for parents of teens. Parents may not like their teen's choice of clothes or hairstyle, but that is usually temporary and harmless. Objecting to risky behavior and harmful choices, like the use of drugs or alcohol, are issues that teens may understand more readily, knowing that their parents love them and want to protect them.
Conflicts between teens and parents can arise over friends, social life, school issues, sex, and just about anything that the parents aren't used to and don't like. It takes time to adjust, and the process usually involves fights and disagreements that are really based on parents wanting to keep their children safe, protect them and help them become responsible adults. As teens mature, they usually come to realize that part of growing up is learning to communicate. Eventually, they get along better with their parents and gain their respect as responsible individuals. Compromise is the name of the game for teens and parents, on the road to acceptance of the teenager's individual identity and opinions.