Your tween is at an age when her focus is shifting from family to friends. She's probably told you "You don't understand!" This is perfectly normal for a child who is trying to figure out where she fits in the world. It's a natural thing but that doesn't mean parents should take a hands-off approach to their tween's friendships.
It is possible to protect your tween while still allowing her to be an individual. Set limits such as not allowing her to hang out with older teens who may push her toward growing up too fast. Know who your child is with, what they will be doing and where. If you don't like your child's friends, talk to him about specific behaviors that are unacceptable rather than repeatedly criticizing his friends, which will only push him closer to them. And remind him that going out with friends is a privilege, not a right.
Making good grades is another important tween limit that we explore on the next page.