Spend Golden Time
The time you spend with your adopted child is golden time -- and there should be plenty of it. Familiarity and shared experience build bonds, and sometimes just being there is the key to getting your new relationship on a more solid footing. Raising an adopted child is a learning experience for everyone in the family. The more time you spend involved in your child's daily activities, the more important you'll be in his life. If your child has abandonment issues or other problems, there'll be challenges, and overcoming them may involve getting professional help. You can make a start by sharing as much time as possible with your adopted child. Your presence will reassure him, and your observations will help you understand his needs better.
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