If you've adopted an older child, he has a background. Instead of ignoring it, celebrate it. If he hails from another culture, try to understand a little about the language and customs of that locale. Learn about the food, and demonstrate that those elements can still be part of his new life. If he's having trouble adapting, be patient, and don't equate confusion and fear with rejection. If your child is older than three, the adjustment period may be longer than if he's a toddler. The key is to remain enthusiastic.