Challenge No. 5: Bonding, Times Two, Three or More!
Learning to split your heart evenly in two, three or more doesn't happen overnight. So, at first, it's not uncommon to feel closer to one baby than the other(s), especially if your babies' hospital homecoming didn't happen all at once.
Try these tips for fitting in one-on-one time with each baby:
- Feed each child individually once a day. During feedings, make lots of eye contact and get skin-to-skin with your babies when possible.
- Take your time diapering. Visits to the changing table don't have to be rushed - singing, cooing, eye contact and smiling all make this count as quality time.
- Take naps together. Many pediatricians and even the American Academy of Pediatrics say it's OK to nap with babies in a bed that has a firm mattress; no soft bedding, pillows or blanket to get tangled in; and no space for getting caught between the mattress and the bedstead. Just make sure babies are a safe distance from the bed's edge. (Children's bed rails, which fit under the mattress and fold down when not in use, can provide peace of mind that your babies won't roll off the bed while you're co-sleeping.)