When you're planning your wedding, you might dream of being the center of attention on your big day. All eyes on you in your beautiful dress, beaming at your new husband, drinking in the love and admiration of all your friends and relatives.
But wait. If you have a flower girl, you might have to think again. For at least the couple of minutes it takes her to walk down the aisle, she's going to be the star of the show. Yep, you're going to be (temporarily) upstaged by a pint-sized kid in a cute little dress. And, you hope, cute hair.
There are umpteen adorable flower girl hairdos out there, and the style you choose will obviously depend on her specific hair (or lack thereof) and the overall look you want for your wedding. But no matter what you pick, there are a few guidelines you'll probably want to keep in mind.
Tops on that list is getting the flower girl's approval. Yes, she might be tiny, but she's not insignificant. She has opinions -- and she could very well revolt against a hairstyle she doesn't like.
Second, keep it simple -- you don't want a complicated style that she'll be tempted to fuss with. If she could potentially topple a hairstyle by getting fidgety and pulling out a pin, it's probably not a good idea. The "keep it simple" mantra will also help you avoid the pageant-queen look, which is a very real threat when you're dealing with a preschooler and wedding hair. The best way to sidestep this obstacle is to be very specific about what you want -- if you give a vague description to an overzealous hairstylist, you could end up with a helmet-headed Little Miss Peach Blossom on your hands.
In the end, remember that everyone is still guaranteed to "ooh" and "aah" over the flower girl, no matter what her hair looks like. But here are five ideas for beautiful styles that will keep everyone happy.
Depending on your own personal style and how formal your wedding is, you might not want a blinged-out flower girl -- it could veer uncomfortably close to pageant-queen territory. But you could easily find a subtle, sparkly hairpiece, more like a headband than a crown, that wouldn't be too over-the-top. You'd win her heart forever if you presented her with her very own tiara -- and she might not even need an official hairdo.
4: Ribbon Braids
If you have a very young flower girl (or one with a stubborn streak), there's always a chance that she'll balk at the hair salon. Bribery is a perfectly acceptable course of action here, but if that fails, don't force it. It's best to keep her happy -- even if her hair doesn't look perfect -- so she won't balk at walking down the aisle!
Another style with the instant cuteness factor: Heidi braids. You can make them extra-special for the wedding by braiding a ribbon through her hair and tying it at the top of her head. This 'do is obviously best for girls with long hair, and it's incredibly easy. Best of all, it's basically foolproof -- if you double-knot the bow, she can't yank it out!
3: Knotted Headband
This is a nifty twist on the braid headband, which has been a hot hairstyle lately, for women and girls, alike. It looks super-complicated, but it's simple to get down pat with a little practice -- it's just a chain of square knots. It's so beautiful and eye-catching on its own that you don't even need ribbons, bows, barrettes or flowers to adorn it.
2: Rapunzel Braid
According to wedding-planning Web site, The Knot, flower girls should be between 3 and 8 years old.
Any flower girl who's seen the Disney movie "Tangled" will jump at the chance to have her hair braided and woven with flowers, just like Rapunzel. Ask your florist to set aside some extra wedding flowers and have the stylist secure them into a long braid. Of course, her hair doesn't need to be floor-length like Rapunzel's, but this obviously isn't a style for a little one with a short bob.
1: Flower Wreath
You can't go wrong with a classic. Generations of flower girls have walked down the aisle in flower wreaths, so there's no need to reinvent the wheel here. It passes the "simple" test with flying colors, and it's a great look for toddlers who don't have much hair. Best of all, they're totally customizable -- baby's breath always seems to make its way into flower-girl wreaths, but you can use anything you want.