In the grand scheme of traditional wedding receptions, there's not a lot of time for any extra or unique events. You can always skip the cake-cutting, first dance or bouquet toss, but your guests will expect these events. Yet, it is possible to create a bit of wiggle room in your reception schedule. Analyze your schedule and prioritize events. Allot the most time for ones that are important to you, and trim a few minutes of dance-floor time or toasting to make up the difference. So, if your new hubby is a musician, for example, he can perform a song or two with the band and still have plenty of time to dance with you and his mom. And if your bridesmaids all have two left feet or terrible cases of stage fright, cut the bridal party dance. No one will miss that.
Using a cheat sheet doesn't guarantee that everything will go as planned during your reception. Rain may force your outside reception indoors; you may find out too late that the much-ballyhooed catering company doesn't live up to the hype, or the band may be having an off night (that won't be the case, of course, if your man is up there with them). A cheat sheet will, however, help keep your reception running smoothly, and despite months of planning and preparation, that's all you can really ask for.