Notorious MOG: Breaking a Bad Rap


You're not so bad! Why do mothers of the groom get such a nasty reputation?
You're not so bad! Why do mothers of the groom get such a nasty reputation?
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The shift from beloved mother of the boyfriend to reviled mother of the groom (MOG) is an unfortunate phenomenon that occurs all too often once wedding planning commences.

Whether you chalk it up to wedding-related stress or truly bad behavior from the parties involved, it hardly seems like a fair trade for all of those years of service you've devoted to your son and his happiness. After all, you wiped his nose more times than you can count, logged countless hours at mosquito-ridden soccer fields and cleaned unidentifiable forms of mold from dishes found in his teenage room. In a perfect world, a statue would be erected in your honor.

In reality, you and the new(er) woman in his life are in the midst of a delicate dance that involves a marked shift in power and responsibility where your son is concerned. Some of the conflict is wedding related, but it's common for you to have a hard time relinquishing control over his life -- and for her to fight a little too hard to obtain it.

Before you resign yourself to a poor relationship with your future daughter-in-law (DIL), rest assured that it doesn't have to be that way! At the end of the day, you both love the man in question, so it's not too much to ask that you and your DIL find a way to co-exist harmoniously, both during the wedding planning process and for years to come.

Keep reading to learn more about your MOG personality type and how you can best get along with you future DIL.