Perks and Pitfalls of Choosing a Long-distance Maid of Honor


Long-distance Benefits
"Do you like the dress? And the veil? What about these shoes?"
"Do you like the dress? And the veil? What about these shoes?"
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You might not think having a long-distance maid of honor would have many benefits, but as long as you have the right attitude and technology, the distance between you can actually help you plan a better wedding. Think about it: With cell phones, instant picture messages and wireless online video conferencing, you and your MOH can go anywhere or do just about anything together. Plus, keeping some physical distance will help alleviate much of the tension that many brides and their maids of honor feel when working toward that one perfect day.

Check out these perks to get a better idea of what we're talking about:

  • You don't have as much influence. We know, it's your vision, but a second set of eyes can help find the flaws in your foolproof wedding plan. Since she won't be able to see you scowl when she points out the disadvantages of your chosen locale, she'll give more impartial advice, and your wedding will be better for it.
  • You won't be able to abuse maid-of-honor privileges on the poor girl. She can't get you an emergency frappe at 2:00 a.m. to help you cope with wedding stress, and if you think about it fairly, that's a good thing.
  • She's out of the loop. This might not sound like such a great perk, but trust us, it is. Regardless if you're an easy-going, go-with-the-flow kind of bride or a hell-bent Bridezilla, there's going to be some local wedding-related drama, and your distanced MOH will be ready to lend a sympathetic ear (even if it's all your fault).
  • She'll want to be involved. You may put your fianc√© to sleep every night with your incessant wedding talk, but because your long-distance maid of honor will want to stay informed, she's likely listen to you go on for hours about your big day.
  • She has to indulge you any way she can. Yes, we just touted the benefits of not taking advantage of your No. 1 bridal party member, but every bride deserves a little pampering. Feel free to call up your long-distance BFF for some mandatory late-night wedding chats or anything else she can (within reason) do for you.
  • The time you spend together will be special. Whether she drives in on an almost weekly basis, or she's only able to make it to your shower and the big day itself, the time you spend together will be better because it's not an everyday thing.

Sure, having a long-distance MOH can be great, but it isn't all champagne and flowers. Head over to the next page to learn what some of the disadvantages could be when your maid of honor lives hundreds of miles away.