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Can a good relationship with you teen mean an easier adolescence stage?


The period of adolescence is a difficult stage for both parents and children. Adolescents, often moody and temperamental, tend to question authority, while their parents feel like they are struggling to maintain control. In addition, adolescents naturally distance themselves from their family and gravitate toward their peers. They increasingly demand privacy and want to make their own decisions. You should realize that this stage of apparent diminished affection and respect is only temporary. If there is good communication between you and your kids, the transition from adolescence to adulthood can be smooth and won't affect the long-term relationship.

A good parent-child relationship starts at an early age. When parents respect their child's feelings and children feel like they are being listened to, they develop a healthy, respectful relationship. Children who feel comfortable discussing ideas with their parents naturally turn to their parents during adolescence when they are confused or conflicted. Studies show that teenagers who have strong relationships with their parents have less risk of developing alcohol or drug problems.

To foster a good relationship with your adolescent, be interested in what is going on in his life. Talk to your child about his favorite music, movies or fashion. Meet his friends and monitor where they spend their free time. To prevent unnecessary anxiety, prepare your child in advance for the upcoming physical and emotional changes that occur during adolescence. Spend time doing fun things together to create a special bond with your adolescent. It's much more effective to communicate while walking or having dinner together than by talking on cell phones. Don't use this special time with your adolescent to complain or lecture; instead, use the friendly conversation to encourage trust. On the other hand, don't be overly permissive; adolescents test rules constantly and they need strong, firm parents to set clear boundaries.

 

 

 


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