10 Ways You Might Be Embarrassing Your Tween


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Verbal Beat-downs
Tweens are less likely to listen when you're angry.
Tweens are less likely to listen when you're angry.
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Tweens are too big to carry out of a store if they start to backtalk. They've outgrown time-outs. And, there's no sense in cajoling a sulking tween with a treat. So, what's left in your parenting arsenal? One of the most embarrassing weapons of all: a tongue-lashing.

We know it's tempting, especially in public, to give a tween a verbal beat-down for everything ranging from attitude to ineptitude. Trust us. It's a major fail. Tweens are less likely to listen when you're angry. And they really won't listen if you berate them in a tyrannical fashion. If you yell, or use sarcasm and insults, you show your cards right away: You aren't in control.

You simply can't be out of control and expect your child to be in control -- or show you respect in the process. Save your concerns for a later discussion at home, when you've both cooled down. By not setting ground rules in the heat of the moment, you've got better odds your tween will take them to heart.